People and their lack of self-control

I truly believe that your life improves with the ability to control yourself.  I’m also pretty sure that how self-aware you are is what directly leads to having self-control. It amazes me how many people out there lack that self-awareness and by extension lack the awareness of their surroundings. They just don’t give a second thought of how their actions affect those around them. As a result, these people don’t feel any need to hold themselves accountable. Recent events in an eastern US city not all that far from here that shall remain nameless (cough… Baltimore) are a great example.

By having self-consciousness, we are less likely to act impulsively. By not acting impulsively, we give ourselves the time to evaluate any given situation we may be in. When we properly evaluate something, we are much more likely to approach it in a calculated (and hence controller) manner. So clearly, self-awareness directly leads to self-control. Sadly, many people are way too fixated on themselves and just don’t give a crap about heir surroundings other than in how they may benefit.

I’m sure there is a way to fix this. I’m just not exactly sure what that way is. We can’t exactly have everyone that lacks self-control seek professional help. Certainly not one on one. There are not enough resources available though I’m sure a push towards something like this would make many doctors very happy. There are certainly group programmes that can be joined. Perhaps that’s the answer. The problem then though is motivation. If someone is not all that self-consciousness, they probably have no interest in changing that aspect of themselves. They don’t see how their behaviour affects those around them and are fine with it. They don’t see the advantage for society at large if everyone just started to act a little more considerate. They’re out for number one.

Maybe all of us that do have some self-control should try educate those that don’t necessarily have it. Perhaps if someone takes an action, we could just be more explicit about how that action affects us, regardless if that effect is positive or negative. The hope would be that maybe over time, the control-less ones would start incorporating the “how will my action affect the other person” thinking into their reasoning. Bit by bit we just reprogram them. Is there a downside here? Not really. Ultimately the worse thing I believe could happen is the other person just ignores you. Oh well, at least you tried to make the world a better place. Helps me sleep just a little bit better at night.

Think of all the other potential benefits people having self-control would bring (other than no longer having mindless rioting and looting). How much healthier would people be. Exercise could perhaps be more prevalent.  Folks would start eating a whole lot better. If you can control your craving, you no longer reach for that chocolate bar. You either grab something else a whole lot healthier or just hold off until something better is available. Maybe having to get to that something will make you walk home faster, giving that additional little bit of exercise… On second though, maybe this last entire last paragraph is a bit of a stretch. I’ll just stop here while I’m ahead.self_control


Hey, I’m Brad, a freshman at Pennsylvania State University. I’ve always been fascinated by people and their stories. What their passions are, why they do the things they do, how they got to where they are. Being part of the Penn State community, I get to interact with all kinds of folks, which scratches that people story itch of mine nicely. Seriously, we have a club for everything here (even axe throwing):

I would like for this blog to become a documentation of sorts of the people stories I hear (though we’ll see what the site ultimately morphs into). Hopefully, someone else out there will find this stuff as interesting as I do. I will do my best to post fairly frequently. Free time is at a bit of a premium for me these days, but I want to make this work.